The main objective of this research is to discover the differences between the four horsemen of the Apocalypse and the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode tool in resolving conflicts in couple relationships and the most effective model for overcoming conflict. A conflict arises when two or more people perceive incompatible goals and values. It is common for couples to have conflicts and disagreements because each of us has different values ​​and beliefs. Financial problems, jealousy, work or even very simple things will lead to conflict between couples. We cannot prevent it unless we have perception and emotion. However, the styles with which we deal with conflict will certainly influence our relationship with our partner. To protect our relationship, we need to know some conflict resolution skills. If the right skill is used it will be of great help in maintaining the couple's relationship. Analysis of previous research has found that The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse helps many people and couples identify and resolve their problems and is well known in couples therapy. This approach is useful for describing communication patterns between couples and predicting relationship problems. Additionally, research has also shown that understanding your style for dealing with conflict is just as effective. The Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Tool can help you identify the style in which you approach conflict and has been a leader in assessing conflict resolution for over 30 years. This approach can help you know how to create a solution when you argue with your partner by understanding your conflict management style. The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse (TFH) model is developed by Dr. John Gottman of the University of Washington. H...... half of the document......CPP Author Insights: Celebrating 40 Years with TKI Assessment: A summary of my favorite insights. MBTI Trust, Inc. The Foundation Coalition. (2011). Understanding conflicts and managing conflicts. Retrieved July 4, 2011, from http://www.foundationcoalition.org/publications/brochures/conflect.pdfAllan Cameron. (2011). Quick book on improving relationships. Give and receive feedback lovingly (pages 9-11). Retrieved July 4, 2011, from the Relate Better database.Sandra J. Bailey, Ph.D., CFLE, Family and Human Development Specialist. (2009). Couple relationships: communication and conflict resolution. Retrieved July 4, 2011, from http://www.msuextension.org/publications/HomeHealthandFamily/MT200917HR.pdfMarlene and Bob Neufeld. (2010). Will your relationship survive? The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. Retrieved July 3, 2011, from www.marleneandbob.com/the4horsemen.pdf