We don't contact each other anymore. With the absence of the components passion, intimacy and commitment, we have returned to non-love again (Sternberg, 1986). Below I will talk about the concept of self. The concept of self suggests that there are different types of self, such as the real self, the ideal self, the physical self, the public self, and the spiritual self (Buss, 2001). First let's talk about the real self. The real self means the way we think about ourselves and the actual characteristics we have. I'm a lazy person. Every time I bring clean, freshly washed and dried clothes back to the room, I don't fold them or put them back in the closet right away. I will leave them there for a period of time. When I have to go to bed at night, I usually put my clothes unfolded on the chair and desk, and put them back on the bed when I have to use the desk. After a week or more, I will finally tidy up my room. So this shows that I'm really lazy and this is part of my reality