As hard-working and resourceful as my grandfather was, this man was equally lazy and content to sit back and do nothing. He couldn't hold down a job because he felt he was smarter than everyone else. This irritated my grandfather who made it very clear that my aunt and her children were welcome at family functions, but her husband was not. She came with the children for a while, but as the children grew up, the influence their father had on them got the better of them and we no longer have any relationship with her children or her husband. We go to visit my aunt and the lack of relationship her children have with her family makes her sad, and she remarked that if she could do it again, she would insist that the children come and have relationships with others. I honestly believe that if my grandmother had lived, my father's side of the family would be different. Sometimes it is the mother who acts as the glue to the family. It's been 37 years since my grandmother died and for a while we continued to have family reunions, but after the situation with my two aunts worsened, the family became a little more distant. My grandfather died in 2003 of pancreatic cancer, and since then family gatherings have become nonexistent. I would say that above all there is a feeling of harmony and we enjoy each other's company, we just don't understand