The challenge of being a pastor and a parent at the same time is finding and adhering to the distinction between leading church members and being a father to your children. A distinction must be made between pastoring a church and parenting your children due to the nature of each responsibility which, when combined with the other, produces a difficult situation. While being a pastor requires a caring heart for your congregation, being a good parent requires a love for your children so deep that caring for anyone else pales in comparison. Problems arise when a pastor cares too much about his congregation or what they think of him and all the while ignores his family. One's family should always come first, whatever one's career. Many times, when this lack of distinction occurs, a pastor will “overshepherd” his children in hopes that he can influence them in the same way he appears to be able to influence their church. In short, he treats his children like parishioners, except with added expectations because the children are his. Other pastors will have little or no involvement with their children in the hope that this will solve the problem. Instead of spending less time with his church members and more with his family, the pastor does just the opposite. These two opposing approaches to solving the underlying problem of being a shepherd and a parent provide a great starting point for an exploration into the wilderness of parenting, while the “shepherd factor” adds even more adventure to an already perilous journey.“Sheltered " is a term used by many to express the amount of exposure an individual has to the world outside of a certain environment. This can be a good or bad thing, as we can see in...... middle of the paper.. .... ave. One of the expectations is for the PK to be a role model for other children in the church. Cameron Lee states this expectation in his book Life in a Glass House by saying, “like the minister and his wife, it is expected that the PK is somehow more than human, an example to all” (168). Lee refers directly to the pastor's congregation when he makes this statement. Works Cited Newman, Alex ) nd: journalistic source. EBSCO. Network. February 1, 2010. Lee, Cameron. PK helps pastors' children overcome their identity crisis. Grand Rapids, Michigan: Zondervan, 1992. Print.Lee, Cameron. The life in a glass house of the minister's family in its unique social context. Grand Rapids, MI: Ministry Resources Library, 1989. Print.Mickey, Paul A. Clergy Families: Is a Normal Life Possible? Grand Rapids, Michigan: Zondervan Pub. Home, 1991. Print.