So what happens when you are angry and unhappy with something your friend or romantic partner does? It is often a difficult task to convey negative messages in a relationship, because we often fear how the other person will react. To receive the best results in the relationship, we must address the problem. Often, in times of conflict, we unintentionally say hurtful things and then suffer with regret for what we said. Personally, this seems to happen almost inevitably at times. How can we do better to prevent such terrible things from being said and feelings from being hurt? In most cases, it is not what is actually said, but it is often how the message is conveyed that is most hurtful and causes the most harm.