What is the basic idea of ​​a gift? It is when one party does something of their own to another (Laidlaw, 2000). In many cultures, gift giving is a norm for establishing and maintaining relationships, rituals such as birthdays and Christmas (Belk & Coon, 1993). In some cases, these exchanges are ceremonial in nature, having a stylized ritual content involving objects of little intrinsic value, as in the case of the kula ring (Malinowski, 1922). Mauss (2002) states that free gifts are practically non-existent and describes the gift as a paradox used to create a contract of obligation. This article seeks to understand the complexity of reciprocity and circulation of gifts in social relationships, through various examples such as exchanges of gifts of yam, banana bundles, skirts and kula shells among Trobriand Islanders in various contexts such as family love , marriages and even death. . The social and economic implications of mutual gift exchange on the formation and maintenance of social relationships in the Trobriand Islands will also be discussed. The debt of mutual giving Weiner (1988) describes the caring and generous giving of mutual giving as an attempt to control others by establishing a debt. This act of giving expresses not only care but also the intention to “soften” or “change” the mind of the recipient (Weiner, 1988). For example, sweet potatoes are highly valued and seen as food, wealth, and power and are sometimes used as gifts (Malinowski, 1922). When one villager gives another a basket of sweet potatoes, he can ask for nothing more in return than to wait. He hopes that in the end he will receive more than he has given. However, the recipient may not be won over by the gifts, or may not have been persuaded to repay the debt (Weiner, 1988). A father's care... middle of the paper... and hierarchy in the kula ring. American Anthropologist, 88(1), 108-115. doi:10.1525/aa.1986.88.1.02a00070Laidlaw, J. (2000). A free gift doesn't make friends. Journal of the Royal Anthropological Institute, 6(4), 617-634. doi:10.1111/1467-9655.00036Malinowski, B. (1922) Argonauts of the Western Pacific. London, England: Routledge and Kegan Paul.Mauss, M. (2002). The gift. London, England: Routledge.Powell, H. A., & Mosko, M. S. (1997). Trobriand chiefs and fathers. The Journal of the Royal Anthropological Institute, 3(1), 154-159. Retrieved from http://www.jstor.org/stable/3034370Weiner, A. B. (1988). The Trobrianders of Papua New Guinea. New York, NY: Holt, Rinehart and Winston. Ziegler, R. (2012). Bronislaw Malinowski's Kula Ring: Coevolution of an Economic and Ceremonial Exchange System. Review of European Studies, 4(1), 15. doi:10.5539/res.v4n1p15