And, unfortunately, the pleasure and perceived growth from these activities is highly addictive. I'm sure they feel like those new experiences are making them a new person. Which is true, but to become the person you want to be you need new experiences and critical thinking. In my past, I read somewhere that travel and new situations can grow new brain cells and can help the brain make new connections. So I was constantly putting myself in new situations and constantly traveling across the country, hoping to have an epiphany that would solve all my problems. Even though I felt like I was nourishing my soul during my long travels, I never had that change in my life that I was looking for. Why? To answer, think about the elephant and rider analogy; your subconscious and conscious brain. The elephant loves the thrills of new experiences and learns new things from them, but only the rider is smart enough to understand their final destination and how to get the elephant back on track. Don't rely on the elephant to understand your destination, however, realize that the rider needs the elephant's strength to get things done